A Model Human Being And A Chair Worth Emulating February 16, 2013
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My VISTAGE colleagues know of Pat Hyndman and his long career with first TEC, and then VISTAGE. Pat is still an active VISTAGE chair at the age of 98, although he is ill at the present time. When I think of the kind of people I’d like to emulate, Pat immediately comes to mind. I hope I can be still doing VISTAGE into my 90s, like Pat.
I believe Pat’s positive attitude is what keeps him going. I spent a weekend at VISTAGE chair training about two years ago and Pat was part of our training group. Nothing Pat did over that weekend could have given away his age, including how he looked. He was totally tuned into every discussion and contributed some great ideas.
Of course, when someone has lived that long, there are many things we have yet to learn about them. One of those interesting facts that I just learned is that Pat was a key part of the group that established the University of California San Diego campus.
The link I’ve added to this blog is from the San Diego Union Tribune and is a great story about Pat, and his work to establish the University of California in San Diego. I think it will also give you some insight into the kind of man Pat is and what keeps him going. Pat is a model for us all.
http://www.utsandiego.com/news/2012/may/25/success-stems-networks-human-not-digital-kind/
ACT TWO February 26, 2012
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I have always loved what I did for a living having spent over thirty years in the broadcasting industry, my dream since I was fourteen years old. Virtually everyday in that business was a blessing for me, because no matter what issues reared their “ugly” heads, I was still doing what I loved.
Roughly 10 years ago, that all changed. I was fired for the first time in my career. I had never considered doing anything that wasn’t broadcasting related and I was at a loss as to what to do next. My lovely wife Noelle and I decided two things. First, we liked living in Pittsburgh and wanted to stay here, and second, we did not want to move our son for the fourth time in 7 years. So a career change was in order.
I began networking to explore other professions. The short story is that I started doing some executive coaching and soon learned about an organization known as TEC (now called VISTAGE http://www.vistage.com). This organization is “dedicated to increasing the effectiveness and enhancing the lives of business leaders”. They do this through monthly peer group meetings, individual coaching, a robust website, and a first class speakers bureau.
In 2003 I decided to become a contractor for TEC (VISTAGE). I was accepted into their world class training program, and became a “group chair”. I was now working with leaders of companies of all sizes and helping them to maximize their potential and maintain balance in their personal lives. And I felt right at home!
The best part? I really love what I do. This is as rewarding a career as I could have imagined. I am constantly challenged, always busy, learning all the time, working with great people, and I can do this as long as I am able and have the desire. Helping leaders become better equipped to meet their challenges head on…what more could one ask?
There are those who would say I am “lucky” because I’ve had careers in two industries and I’ve loved them both. As Thomas Jefferson said, “I am a great believer in luck, and the harder I work, the luckier I get.” I believe my “luck” is based on the following formula: HW + A = Luck; Hard Work + Attitude = Luck. So, yes, you can make your “luck”.
So, how is it that I went from working in an industry that I loved to working in a profession that I love even more? Attitude has a lot to do with it. If you believe in and have passion around what you do, or what you want to do, you’ll discover that love. I don’t think it is any more complicated than that. The formula is simple, HW + A = L.
If you are not passionate about what you are doing, then maybe it’s time to figure out what will instill passion in you, and then find a way to make it happen. Many of our VISTAGE speakers emphasize that “Attitude is everything”! So develop that positive attitude, make things happen, and start enjoying what you do.
For those who believe the cliche, “There are no second acts…”, there are.
Thanks to my wonderful editor, Noelle Hoguet-Singer.
SCARY MANAGERS October 21, 2011
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Since this is the month of Halloween I thought it would be interesting to write about scary managers. I once knew a manager who would shout at his employees just to “keep them on their toes”. I am told he actually brought an underling into his office and “dressed him down” in front of another manager “just for kicks”. I don’t know what you think of that behavior in a manager, but I find it frightening.
Here are some signs that you may have a scary manager on your staff:
Behaves like a Marine Drill Sargent
Thinks they have all the answers
Thinks nobody else is capable of doing their job
Never hires “A” players and rarely hire “Bs”
Doesn’t believe in open communications; are often heard to say, “only tell them what they need to hear to get the job done”
Knows nothing about their employees personal lives
Never asks for input from their employees
When someone leaves, they are the first to “badmouth” that person to the other employees
Loves power
Enjoys terminating people
Have a “not my job” attitude
Alway looks for the negatives in people
Keeps changing positions based on what he / she thinks “the bosses” want
Always use “I” never uses “we”
Treats the “suck ups” best
Thinks that employees exist only to make “the boss” look good
The above list is by no means conclusive and someone doesn’t have to have all of the above attributes to qualify as a scary manager. Scary managers probably don’t show some of these characteristics when the boss is around. And they may not seem scary to you if you’re the boss. In fact, they may be intimidated by their superiors.
If, as “the boss”, you spend some time talking to your employees one-to-one, you’ll begin to learn more about them, but also you’ll learn more about your managers. Another way to learn more about what you should know is to use one of the many assessments that are readily available such as Predictive Index or DISC. In fact, it makes sense to assess employees before you hire them, especially management hires.
So at this “chilling” season, take a look around you. Are there frightening creatures working for your company and are they capable of removing their “mask” and transforming into the kind of manager you want on your staff? Or is the mask a permanent part of their “anatomy”. If so, weed them out sooner rather than later, Halloween is for kids, not managers.
Do The “Termination” Paperwork When You Hire May 2, 2011
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Recently I spoke with a manager at a small service company who was about to terminate an employee for “not doing their job”. I asked that manager if they had done all the necessary things to insure that the employee was properly informed of and trained in their duties. The manager replied that they had “written up” the employee and listed “areas of needed improvement”.
His response didn’t really answer my question and I told the manager that what I really wanted to know: was the employee properly trained, from the beginning, on his job duties? Did the employee receive an employee manual or a document outlining responsibilities and “chain of command”? Was the employee taught procedures and informed, on a regular basis, how he was doing?
Now, these aren’t necessarily the items that will keep you “legal” if a terminated employee decides to take you to court. But, they are the right things to do to properly engage and motivate an employee. It is the manager’s responsibility to see that each new employee has a full understanding of what is expected of them and what they should expect of their new employee.
So many managers don’t take the time to do these simple things, or they assign the training to another employee who “doesn’t get paid to do that” and is more concerned with getting their own work completed. If management does not treat training of new employees as a priority, neither will other employees. And the new employee expected, to learn by osmosis, rarely masters the work.
So, is the employee left to “fend for themselves” after a brief period of training, at best? And then, (horror of horrors!) they don’t do their job well! Now the manager has to have at least one “fierce conversation” with the employee to try to get them on track. The employee is suddenly being trained “under duress”. And the manager is having to spend far more time with this employee than would have been necessary had they been properly trained in the beginning.
However, the one thing the manager gets right is the “paper trail” that leads to termination…a verbal warning followed by a written warning, with expectations, followed by termination if there is no improvement. In other words, all the information that the employee should have received, in written form, when they were hired. What’s wrong with that picture?
Too many people lose jobs, not because of poor performance, but because of poor communication of expectations by their managers. That’s why you should do the “termination” paperwork when they are hired. and save yourself a lot of time and aggravation.
Six Years Is Like The Blink Of An Eye January 22, 2011
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I recently heard the story of Fernando Araujo, the Foreign Minister of Columbia. Araujo was captured by Marxist rebels about ten years ago and held captive until December 31 of 2006. He spent those six years, in captivity, being shuffled from one camp to another on a remote mountain range. He escaped when his captor’s attention was diverted by military helicopters overhead. In 2007 he told his story on National Public Radio.
When the Columbian police and military rescued him, he noticed that many of them were doing something he had never seen. They were taking his picture using their cell phones. Araujo had never seen a cell phone camera, an IPod, or Google Earth, just to name a few things that came to be during his six years in captivity. It was a new and changed world for him.
If you think about it, the changes we are seeing technologically are happening at a faster and faster pace. Compare the first IPod of just a few years ago with a newer model that is just over the size of a silver dollar. If you bought a computer just three years ago and are ready to upgrade to a new one, you’ll get more computer for less money, not to mention the power of the iPad and newer iPhones. Just think about all the wireless connectivity you have in your car. Oh, and did we mention the onslaught of social media? And perhaps most amazing, automobiles that park themselves!
The speed with which the world is changing is especially important in business. There is no such thing as “business as usual”. If you don’t think the way business is done is changing just compare the time it takes to buy an airline ticket via the telephone and the internet. It was not long ago that airlines actually had retail locations in downtown areas of major cities where people could walk in and purchase a ticket from a human being.
If you are forward thinking, then you are doing everything you can to stay ahead of the technological curve. That means paying attention to what’s happening technologically in the world and how that will affect your industry.
The difference between you and Fernando Araujo is that you can only be held captive by your own preconceived notions of how business is done in your industry. Another difference is that he had no choice, however, you do. You can chose to put blinders on and hope for the best, or you can chose to move forward integrating new technologies and management methods. What you don’t have is six years to ponder your decision.
The future is already here, and if you aren’t changing, you’re falling behind. Don’t wait for the alarm bells to go off telling you that your business is starting to decline. There is a saying that the best time to look for a job is when you have one. Well, the best time to proactively plan for change is when business is good.
Do The Thing You Fear November 22, 2010
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If there is a phrase that I have tried to live by throughout my professional life, it is those five words in the headline. That phrase is the only takeaway I remember from a sales training program I took as a “rookie” salesperson in the broadcasting industry a few decades ago.
Those five words have gotten me through some trying times, and have been the underlying reason for most of my successes. That training course, developed by an insurance salesperson, was spread out over eight weeks and a total of 16 hours. In retrospect, it was worth every minute.
During my first year in sales, I worked at a small UHF TV station in Philly, before cable had come to the city and when UHF penetration was only about 20% of the market. I made a “cold call” on an automobile dealer, situated adjacent to the elevated train tracks in a tough neighborhood of Philadelphia; the same neighborhood depicted in the “Rocky” movies. I walked in the door, asked to see the owner. He happened to be standing in the showroom, so I walked over and introduced myself. This gentleman was an imposing figure about 4 inches taller than me, whose name was Bob.
As I calmly informed him that I was there to discuss TV advertising with him, he literally grabbed me by my suit jacket and “escorted” me out of his showroom, telling me that he wasn’t interested in hearing anything I had to say. I walked to my car, shaking from head to toe from anger and humiliation, and sat there for about 15 minutes while I tried to calm down. As I began to feel calmer, I thought, “If I could do that call all over again, what would I do differently?” Not walking in the door was not an option in this process.
The next morning at 8:30AM I arrived back at the same dealership, and sat in the showroom nervously awaiting Bob’s arrival. When he arrived at 9AM I walked up to him and reintroduced myself saying “it seems like you were a bit preoccupied when I visited yesterday.” Bob just looked at me with that expression that says, “Are you out of your @#*@#+# mind??” He then began to laugh and invited me into his office to talk. Two months later Bob began the first television advertising campaign he had ever done. And, we became friends as well as business associates.
This is but one graphic example of what can happen when you “Do the thing you fear”. Believe me I was not cool and collected when I arrived at Bob’s showroom that second morning. However, as I sat in my car trying to calm down the day before, I began to think of that phrase, “Do the thing you fear”. I realized that there was nothing more that Bob could do to me after what he had done that day. He couldn’t physically injure me or kill me, despite the tough Philadelphia neighborhood. The worst he could do was throw me out again and I already knew how that felt.
If I had never gone back to that store, I would never have had the opportunity to make Bob a customer and a friend. And, I would never have had the opportunity to help bring one of the first local automobile advertisers in Philadelphia to television.
Does it always work? No it doesn’t, but you’ll never know if you don’t try. People who are willing to take the risk and overcome their fears are never in a position to wonder about what could have been.
On another important topic, here’s a link to a blog by Steve Tobak about employee and management engagement and how changing the way you see or react to things can make a difference.
http://www.bnet.com/blog/ceo/10-workplace-rules-of-engagement/6086?promo=713&tag=nl.e713
Effective, Expectation Based Performance Reviews August 8, 2010
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An employee is called to the office of their supervisor. Once there they are told that their performance is not satisfactory. The employee is then told that if they don’t show significant improvement by a specific date they could be terminated.
The employee leaves the office in a state of bewilderment since nobody ever told them that they had to meet certain expectations. “Expectations! What expectations?” says the employee to nobody in particular.
Sound familiar? This is a common situation for supervisors and employees. How does a person do what is expected when no one has told them specifically what is expected.
What about the annual review? For a manager, spending inordinate amounts of time at the end of the year trying to remember what kind of a job a person did over the previous 12 months is wasting time. Invariably, the employee will remind you of the good things you forgot to write about; or they’ll go away resentful because of the things you forgot. And, human nature is such that we’ll probably remember the negative things from the prior year more vividly than the positives. Not exactly the note on which you would like to begin the year.
Employees deserve two very important things from their manager / supervisor:
- To know what is expected of them.
- To be told, on a regular basis, how they are performing as measured against those expectations.
In my formative years as a sales manager, I had expectations that the sales people reporting to me knew what I thought they should be doing. “They’re sales people, they should know,” I thought.
What I learned is my sales staff really did not know what I expected of them beyond a monthly and annual dollar goal. The expectations of how they were to achieve those goals were never communicated. If they made ‘X’ number of weekly calls, they believed they had done what they needed to do. They didn’t know the steps I expected them to take to achieve those goals. Why didn’t they know? I had not told them; shame on me for not clearly defining and communicating expectations.
You can’t hold a person accountable if you don’t tell them what they are accountable for. They deserve to know how they will be measured. They must know what you expect of them. And you need to know what expectations they have of themselves.
Which brings us back to performance reviews. Here is how I would suggest you can make your expectation reviews more effective:
Start in December by setting the expectations for each employee for the following year. List your expectations and have them list expectations for themselves. Agree to a mutually defined set of expectations (remember, as the employer / supervisor, you have the final say) and set benchmarks by which they will be measured. Ask the employee to contribute ideas to help you set these expectations. When they have input, the employee will embrace the goals as their own.
At least once every quarter, or more often if you wish, meet for an informal review of the expectations to see how the employee is doing. At this time you can set additional expectations and determine what is necessary to move forward on those that are not being met in a timely manner.
The employee and the supervisor now have a clear idea of expectations and how they will be measured. They are having regular, scheduled, non-confrontational conversations specific to those expectations. And, the year-end review becomes a compilation of the prior conversations for you, which creates an opportunity to set new expectations.
No more spending hours trying to remember employee performance over the past year. Now, the entire process should take no more than 3 – 4 hours over the course of the entire year. And the results should maximize employee performance.
This blog is edited by Noelle Hoguet-Singer
Don’t Waste Valuable Lessons! May 10, 2010
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When I was an owner in the radio business, my partner and I put ourselves and our families on the line to borrow money to build a group of small market radio stations. At the time, it was the right thing to do if we wanted to follow our dream.
Our business plan and financial projections were proven out by our banker’s own research and projections. We had determined that our AM/FM combination in Lake Tahoe would be our “cash cow”, supporting the entire group and allowing us to buy additional small market stations.
But, alas, that was not to be. You see, California descended into a six-year drought shortly after we bought the stations in Lake Tahoe. Lake levels dropped by a stunning eleven feet; in fact, there were beaches around Lake Tahoe that did not exist Lakeside before the drought. Long boat docks were completely out of the water.
Our revenue model was based on the “thriving” tourist economy in Lake Tahoe. Unfortunately, as the drought continued, the tourists stopped coming and the retail failure rate exceeded 40%. Survival, not advertising, was the top priority for the remaining businesses.
Our “grand plan” to build a valuable group of radio stations and sell them at a high profit, since radio station multiples in those days were at all time highs, evaporated. Sleepless nights became the norm. Arriving at the station at 4AM was not uncommon. Trying to be positive for our employees’ sake was very difficult when our innermost feeling was despair.
The idea that we could fail had never entered our minds, yet there we were, on the brink of personal bankruptcy. I remember one January evening looking out of my office window in Kingman, Arizona and noticing that it was still light; the days were getting longer, and that gave me hope. Shortly thereafter, just as the western sunrise kissing the mountain tops signals a new day, we found a kind of optimism when a buyer emerged for our properties. We narrowly avoided bankruptcy, and were asked to stay and continue to operate “our stations”.
The lessons I learned through that experience have stayed with me. I found that it is more important to find out what you don’t know than to know what you do know. I also learned that friends and family did not think any less of us; rather, most admired the fact that we had the guts to try. Failure is a building block upon which future success is constructed.
Here are some things that I learned as we went through this ordeal:
- Never allow your emotions or ego to override good business sense
- Hope for the best, but plan for the worst
- Maintain as much transparency as possible with employees; you never know where good ideas may come from
- Make any necessary cuts now, don’t wait to see if things will get better
- Don’t stop making the right investments in your business, just be sure they are the “right” investments
- Keep a good cash reserve
- Look at every new day as a new beginning
- Don’t worry about what other people think; failure is not something of which to be ashamed
- No matter how difficult it may be, do not compromise your values
That experience did not deter me from the idea of someday being an entrepreneur again. Henry Ford once said, “One who fears failure, limits his activities.” And so, I started my own consulting business in 2002, and have the great privilege of working as a VISTAGE Chair and private coach, with entrepreneurs who have built businesses, made some mistakes, had some successes, and who realize that this is a journey in which every day gives you a fresh start.
The days are again getting longer and we are beginning to see a light at the end of this recession tunnel, so it’s time for you to evaluate where you’ve been and where you are going. Sure, it’s been a tough road, but if you’ve survived, that’s a win.
It’s time to think seriously of the lessons you’ve learned. Knowing what you know now, what would you do differently if you had to go back to September of 2008 and relive the last 20 months? Take whatever time necessary to answer that question, because those answers should be the basis of the model for how you run your business going forward. Write the answers down. Put them where you can easily revisit them. Use them to build a better business that will withstand whatever comes your way. Don’t waste those lessons learned!
Email…What Is It Good For? February 7, 2010
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In the song that I paraphrase in the headline above, the answer is, “ABSOLUTELY NOTHING! Well in the case of Email that is not necessarily the case. Email has become a blessing and a curse.
It’s a blessing in that it allows for quick communication. Compared to “snail mail”, it’s a quick and inexpensive way to move documents, and it allows for immediate follow-up.
The curse of Email manifests itself in what it has become. It’s a way to avoid tough conversations, it has made people more isolated, and is subject to misinterpretation; the “voice” in which an Email is written is not necessarily the “voice” in which it is read. Relationships have been broken over emails that were misunderstood.
Using Email to avoid a face-to-face conversation is unfair to the person receiving the message as well as the person sending it. If you can’t confront an issue, in person or by phone and need to hide behind an Email message, you have bigger problems than you know.
People are isolating themselves more and more by using Email instead of having a conversation. This happens all of the time and, what’s more, I’ve seen it happen with people in adjoining cubicles! How ridiculous is that!
Can anyone honestly interpret the sender’s frame of mind when the Email was written? Will the receiving party be affected by their own mindset when reading the message? Relationships are fragile and Email can innocently turn a positive relationship into a negative one. Many people don’t even read their Emails before they hit the “send” button. I would also opine that, if they did, there would be far fewer Emails sent and far fewer misunderstandings as a result.
Let us not forget also, that Emails have a long afterlife through the convenience of the “forward” button and archiving. If you are concerned about your Email getting in front of the wrong eyes, DON’T SEND IT! Do it the old fashion way and pick up the phone.
Here are some ways in which Email should be used:
- To ask a question that requires a short answer
- To verify a meeting time
- To send a document
- To inquire about someone’s health and well being
- To congratulate someone on a job well done (although a hand written note might be better)
- As follow up to a meeting
- To make an announcement to the entire staff at once
Here are some ways in which Email should not be used:
- To reprimand someone
- To start an ongoing conversation (use the phone or have a meeting)
- If the subject matter is personal or confidential (remember, Email has an after life)
- To discuss a third party without their knowledge
- To gripe about something
- To deliver a message that could be misinterpreted (this will take some thought)
There are some companies that have “No Email Fridays”. People cannot communicate using email on Fridays, they must meet in person or use the telephone.
Finally, if you are not sure that your message should be Emailed, remember, “If it might offend, don’t send”, to paraphrase an old newspaper cliché.
